Silver Love

“To be content in bliss, without desire or insistence anywhere, this was heaven: to be together in happy stillness.” — D.H. Lawrence

I know I haven’t posted in a bit, but I just recently came down from two weeks of camping, hiking, meditating and just hanging out with nature and friends up on Mt. Shasta, one of my favorite places to go. So, as they say, I was off the grid for a while, recharging my batteries for my existence back in the lowlands of the normal physical world.

I first came up to Mt. Shasta in 1972, forty years ago. I was only twenty years young then. Of course, I’ve aged a bit since then, both in body and in spirit. However, I’d like to think I’ve traded those years for something worthwhile, like gaining a little wisdom, and learning a few lessons from the immature trials of inexperienced youth.

And one of those lessons involves a simple but powerful lesson called love. At the retreat on Mt. Shasta this year that theme kept popping its inquiring head around at me, like saying ‘okay, are you really comprehending how this silver love thing works?’ Uh, well, I thought so.  But hey, maybe not?  Well anyway, while I’m at it, let me explain a little about this silver love thing. And no, it doesn’t mean love between senior citizens, something that has been bantered about some.

First, a little history lesson on the commonly known types of love.

As you can imagine, much has been written about love throughout the span of human history, for surely it is the one major common bonding element in our life, as well as something we would all like more of. Yet, it can be so utterly complex, and even simply mysterious. The poets, dramatists and musicians of any era never tire of its variant themes, whether in tragic, dramatic or comedic form. For no one ever seems to tire of the subject matter, since it seems to form the very foundation for our internal being’s growth, whether it be friend/friend, parent/child, lover/lover, Deity/spiritual being.

The ancient Greeks, in all their wisdom, did not have just one word for love, but four words based on the type of love practiced; Philios Love, Storge Love, Eros Love and Agape Love. Philios love is a friendship, camaraderie, social type of love that is conditional and somewhat selfish, implying ‘I like you if you like me’. Storge love is the instinctual, protective and nurturing love that a parent has for their child. Not as conditional as the previous love, but there are rewards involved in expressing and giving this love. The child learns that if they do ‘this’ then they will be showered with more attention, and love, meaning, ‘I will love you because I should’.  Eros love is a physical, sexual love, but as a beautiful union between lovers, not something to be abused or lustful. Unfortunately, oftentimes the passionate attraction of this love goes in a negative direction and is misused and selfish, becoming a game of gratifying conquest. It should be a positive, uplifting love of beauty, romance and respect. Many couples in love forget this over time.

And finally we have Agape love, which is an unconditional, spiritual, selfless and more eternal love. Religions refer to this type of altruistic love as one reserved for a divine spiritual deity. This type of love when integrated with one of the others can help temper and make a more positive, integrative type of love.

Now, I’d like to introduce a love paradigm that has another definition scale for the different types of love. They are based on the spiritual progressions taught within the meditation system I practice, which is called Audinometry (more about that in a future post). Again there are four types of love; Red love, Blue love, Gold love and Silver love.

Red Love is considered a physical, sexual expression of love, which can create a dynamic energy for spiritual growth. However, if not practiced wisely it can quickly become an unhealthy progression, spiraling down into negative directions. This makes it feel like a needy, clinging type of love, where someone feels they just can’t live or exist without you.

Blue Love is true heart love, and can be expressed between good friends, parent and child, or lovers. In fact, blue love makes red love a more positive, uplifting experience and strong basis for spiritual growth. But you still have to careful of the emotional attachment that can bind you. Plus, red love without blue love will eventually crash and burn, and oftentimes you wonder what happened.

Gold Love is a more traditional type of spiritual love, but usually in a devotional context. This is the common love between a devotional student and their guru or master, or in the more religious love of a churchgoer’s worship for their God. However, it can sometimes feel a bit gooey and syrupy.

The final love is Silver Love. All of the previous three loves are conditional in one way or another, usually involving an energy exchange of some type, which can have some detrimental energetic consequences if not managed positively. Silver love is also a spiritual love, but it is an unconditional, non-exchange type of love. There are no attachments involved in practicing this love, and it can be a very high energetic, and harmonic, love for both friends and lovers.

It seems to me that silver love is hard to find here in the ‘normal’ physical world. And if discovered, it is actually something worked hard at and created consciously by people. I doubt that it just happens. The other three seem more commonly human-like, while silver love (a pure love with no clinging color) almost seems godlike in its essence. We’ve all heard of the expression about love ‘making the world go round.’ Well, I say that silver love is what ‘makes the world go up.’  So, I feel it is the love we should all strive for, as it can help pave the way for a truly upward, high-flying (vertical) spiritual progression.

And wouldn’t it just be divine if we could create, practice and spread silver love around the world? Now that would be a high way to go!